Are Your Goals Right for You?

Are you someone who has set goals for themselves recently? Or made some News Year resolutions that you are now finding it hard to keep? You are not alone. I’m sure most of us set out with a new path or a new goal.

“I’m going to work on splits”

“I’m going to get abs”

“I’m going to lose ‘x-amount’ of weight”

“I’m going to do that crazy pole move I have seen all the athlete polers doing on Instagram”

Have a think for a moment about which goal you currently have going on in your life? Or perhaps one you would like to have… now really think about it?

Ask yourself why do you want it? Is it honestly achievable in a fun way for you with your life?

Now don’t get me wrong I am all for pushing to be better, but just take a moment to work out why you want those things…

Is it because all your peers you follow on social media have abs, over splits and crazy pole moves? What we see everyday on social media goes in deep, think of it like advertising, when you see the same pizza advert over and over again, eventually the advertising will probably work, and you’ll go and get it!

Now think about social media, this constant stream of people adverts, going into your mind… Bare in mind they only put out the good bits of their lives. Not the bit of them up late and crying into a tub of ice cream for whatever reason.

Whilst a lot of social media is great for motivation and ideas, it can also be damaging and demotivating all at the same time.

Remember something, when you see all the crazy moves, don’t forget the hard work, the blood sweat and tears these dancers have put in to get that 30 second clip, of a polished move they have been working on, tried 50 times that day and finally got it right.

Back to your goals… So I’m sure you want what ever is at the end of your line, but why?… Example: “My poling will be awesome if I could do splits and I could do so many awesome moves”… Tell me something… are you not already awesome?

My beginner polers always makes me think of how we change, as we enter the pole world. Think about your first lesson, even if it’s not pole, perhaps you have another passion.. How excited were you when you started? You looked forward to every week, for what you were going to do next. Now fast forward and introduce social media, now what do you think of your poling/passion? How has this changed the way you look at yourself?

Imagine for a moment that you are actually happy with your body… Happy learning new pole things that suit your body and your ability… This is a freeing feeling to have.

Every one is so different, so why not pursue your strengths, rather than always having your focus on a weakness.

What I am trying to get at here, is that the social pressures we build up in our own heads, can make a big difference to how we see ourselves. People don’t say to you, “You should lose weight?” “You need to be more flexible” (If there are people walking round saying shit like this, then they are not nice people!!)

No one cares what you look like! No one cares if you can do the latest Fonji-Flip-Iron X-Toe Spin!!

They care about you! How you are doing? Are you healthy and happy? – This is what people think.

So why not give yourself a break, eat some cake, and think about what you are good at, and what you enjoy, then base some targets around yourself.

Bottom line is, life is too short. No one knows how long anyone has left, so why not make the most of it, enjoy your unique journey and be happy in your own body. After all, you are awesome already!



I have the perfect body… and so do you!

My body wakes me up every day, takes me to work, tells me I am hungry, allows me to watch funny things, laughs when things are funny.

Personally I am amazed at what it allows me to do on the pole, others might be amazed that it can grow their children, or fight cancer or repair broken bones!

If our bodies can do all of this amazing stuff, then why are so many intent on neglecting or saying hurtful things about themselves??? What did your body do to you to deserve such treatment?

To those who push themselves, by not sleeping much, not eating, particularly before aBones sleeping class, not bothering to drink water, particularly throughout a class – Your body needs these 3 things to be able to keep going, don’t just assume your body will run on empty, as you will run out of energy, and the risk of injury and demotivation goes up.



To those who say “I’m fat” “I’m ugly” “My butt is too big”. I’m sorry if you feel you are having a ‘fat’ day, but think of others around you, don’t spread your negativity. The Sad Boneschances are there could be someone hearing you saying how fat you are today, when they themselves are actually bigger than you, basically you have just called them fat! You could end up giving others a complex. I always believe that so long as you are happy and healthy, there is nothing wrong with your weight!!

It’s ok if you would like to shed some body fat, gain more strength or flexibility, but you should not focus on the negatives to achieve these goals. Look at your amazing body, focus on the positive parts of you to make you happy, and feel motivated to change other areas. If you have a negative outlook on yourself, then don’t expect a positive outcome, as you will still be stuck in a negative way of thinking. Enjoy the journey, as you need to commit to make changes, so make it fun.

To those who keep saying “I can’t do that” “I’ll never be able to do that” over and over again, sometimes before you’ve even tried it, you need to think about switching your attitude, positive mental thinking is a wonderful tool, it allows you to keep yourself upbeat when times are tricky, and also in classes allows you to nail new moves and achieve goals much faster, and it also spreads to others around you. Think back to the last time you were in a good upbeat mood, and how much easier did that make the rest of the day.

Life is much more pleasant when we are all thinking that good things will happen, Jumpobviously I know that every now and again we do each experience bad times, and for those times it is hard to keep our chin up, but if we can spread more positivity on a regular basis, then life will be a better place.

If you want more out of your classes, and out of your whole life, then start treating yourself with more respect. Your body is perfect just the way it is.